1 Carving Out Time
The idea of taking time for yourself can feel like yet another thing to add to your already busy life. Your first step is to affirm and believe – You Have Enough Time! It may sound odd to say something when it clearly does not feel true and you have evidence of the contrary. However, by the laws of the universe, you cannot change something by focusing on the lack of it. To change something, you first must start with affirming what you want as though you already have it. So, make it a point to tell yourself each day that you have enough time.
Next you will need to prioritize and make room in your day. You may feel there are more things to get done in a day than you have time for. Although this may seem to be a time issue, it isn’t. Too many things to do is a sign of a lack of focus or even a misguided direction, but not a lack of time.
To take a closer look at where you currently spend your time, and jot down what a typical day looks like for you from the time you wake up until you go to bed. Remember to include everything, including social media, television and all the people and tasks you take care of each day. Now have a look at what you wrote. How much time did you spend on each of these activities? Was this a typical day? If not, review a few days, past or future, to get a good idea for yourself.
The things you wrote down are what you have decided are necessary, and therefore, your priorities. Are you surprised by this statement? When you look at your list, is there anything on the list that does not need to be there? What is absolutely a priority? Highlight those items. Is there something that did not make the list, which needs to be there? Are the actions required for your definition of success and the goals you want to manifest even on that list?
To organize your life and have time for what is essential, you need to decide what is most important and make sure it is a priority in your daily routine. It needs to be scheduled.
If you are like most people, you may struggle a bit with everything seeming to be a priority, making it hard to let stuff go. It is especially hard if you think you are going to disappoint others, or that you are not doing enough. You may also be filling your schedule as a way to maintain control.
For more details about how to lighten your load and carve out more time for the things that matter; and even determine what really matters, be sure to get a copy of Fear Unravelled: Transform your thinking and manifest the abundant life you deserve. This coaching guide goes into detail on exactly how to take control of your day.
2 You Need to be a Priority
Like many people, you may find yourself neglecting your self-care. It can feel selfish to put your needs first. Indeed, you may have been socialized to believe you are supposed to serve and put others first. Do you make it onto your own priority list?
Here is an exercise to help you with this concept:
Visualize a 6-inch pie. Divide it into pieces for all the people & things you take care of or are responsible for in your life. You can even make the pieces proportionate to the amount of time you feel you give to each category.
Did you get a piece? If so, what was the size of yours? If you are like many people, you may not have included yourself or your piece was minuscule. You may also feel like some of the pieces do not even feel big enough for those you want to serve.
So, what is the solution? Double the size of the pie! It starts with carving out time in the step above. As well as, making the decision to include yourself as one of those priorities that gets scheduled. To do this you will need to affirm that including yourself as a priority is not only unselfish, but absolutely necessary. Of course, if you gave yourself a huge piece and neglect others, then you may be a selfish person and I would be advising to balance that out. In my coaching practice I seldom meet someone who is actually selfish.
Balancing your priorities, looks like you giving yourself a piece of the pie first and dividing the rest up amongst the other priorities on your list. The beauty is that you will discover that you have more time, more energy and get more done. When you take more care of yourself, you have more to give.
3 Self-care versus Self-love
Now that you have made the decision to make yourself a priority and to manage your time more effectively, it is time to decide what you will do for yourself during your me time.
The list is endless of what you can do during your me time. It is a good idea to categorize the actions you take into body care, mind care and spirit care.
- Body care may include an exercise routine, walks, eating healthy, removing toxins from your home, visiting a salon or spa, getting a massage, or reiki.
- Mind care may include some of the relaxing activities above, as well as, removing toxic thoughts, identifying and releasing fears, doing forgiveness exercises, starting a gratitude journal, or creating a vision board.
- Spirit care may include activities that help you understand and accept who you are, teach you about universal principles and help you discover your passion and purpose.
Connecting to yourself so that you can foster this loving relationship with first you and then with others in your life requires time for quiet reflection. Reflection time is referred to by many names: mindfulness, prayer, decompression, meditation. Whatever you call it, the intention is to slow down, take time to consider, get clarity, and facilitate healing of the body and mind, while connecting within. Ultimately, this is me time.
Me time is a time for self-care of the body, mind and spirt.
It requires time for reflection and relaxation.
Make it a priority and schedule it.
These steps will help foster a greater feeling of self-love.
Decide when you will fit in your me time and be specific.
- What time of day?
- How long each time?
- How many times a week?
- What activities will you include?
- Do your activities include care for the body, mind and spirit?
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by Leanne Giavedoni.